|How could I have been so stupid?|
I believe one of the most tragic things in life is not being kind to someone who loves and cares for you and not guarding the heart of someone that has given their heart to you. I don't mean that you 'must' love them back; but at least have some measure of love or warm affection for them and always be truthful in your dealing with individuals.
Let's say for instance you dated this guy or girl and she was a fantastic individual. You could not have asked for a better partner if you could have placed an order for the ideal mate; however, but you still was not all that into the person. Maybe you wanted for things to work knowing that she was a great catch. In the end you did the opposite of what you wanted to do, you mistreated her driving her away. Afterwards you felt only regrets for your actions. Were you "nuts" or something? I will not go as far as saying you were nuts but obviously at the time the chemistry was not there and the relationship did not work. The sad part is the individual that you were 'not' into probably thought the world of you and did all she could to prove it. I know...I was once that person. I use to think that if I was kind enough, sweet enough, attentive enough, looked great enough and generally kept myself together I would be able to sway the mind and heart of the individual I wanted most. Well, let me tell you folks it simply does not work that way. Unfortunately, I ended up holding onto thin air and hope for a long time.
I was on the opposite end of the spectrum as the one being turned away. I am guessing since you are reading this article that you are the one who turned away someone or mistreated someone that you now realize was very special and you now dearly regret letting that person go? Today, you are no doubt older and wiser and as you look back you can now see how foolish you were for turning your back on the one person who truly cared, trusted you and tried to show it in every way possible. Ask yourself; "was that the one person that was sent from Heaven just for you?" It is indeed a rude and cruel awakening to realize that your chance for true happiness could now be gone forever. I believe we all come across the "ideal person" that was meant for only us; unfortunately, many times we are not able to see what's staring us in the face...until it's too late or until we believe its to late.
What if...just what if it was not to late to regain what you thought was lost and gone forever. If there was a slim chance of you regaining the love of the person that was there for you; would you make an effort to reunite with that individual or would you be too afraid to try?
I read this post called 5 Ways To Destroy The Illusion Of Fear...written by I thought this paragraph was fitting to place here. If you are to afraid to pursue a lost love or afraid to re-establish a loving relationship with someone you should have treated better perhaps this short paragraph will awaken you. Show no fear.
" If you ever speak to those that are somewhat older and wiser, they will tell you that, in life, we usually regret the things we did not do, rather than the things we did. If you spend your life procrastinating, you will never know the outcome. And remember, no result is a negative one. It’s what you make of your experiences, every moment, every encounter shapes you, bringing you to the point in your life, you’re at now."
The objective here is to let you know that things can and offer do workout for the better if you move forward without fear and with determination. After all you will never know the outcome if you fail to act. If that person is still single you have a chance to rekindle the relationship. I would go as far to say just because a person is in a relationship does not necessarily mean that they are happy. The individual might be looking for a way out of the relationship. My point is not for you to attempt to break up someone happy relationship plus if the individual is truly happy you won't stand a chance anyway; but what 'if' the person is not happy; your chances have just gotten better at a full reunion. Will it be easy, probably not, could it prove to be well worth the effort...absolutely.
In my case, the object of my affection did return and I was receptive (after a period of time, it did take some work). The only enemy that stands between you and total happiness is fear. "Go Conquer Your Fears!"
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